But even after that she’s come back and try to get reactions out of me. If you think he is cheating, personally I would ditch him, because most likely your gut is right. Someone help me please. The amount of crazy is unreal. Many thanks to him for helping me get my sanity back. Please stop that! “If you won the lottery a week after they left you – that would make them nearly suicidal.”. So just recently, he texted me again (LOL). Literally was friends with him for 2 years. brought the affair partner into your home. I do know that I will continue no contact as this is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. Please read these comments and equip yourself, ..for if the time comes to never ever I’ve written a few blogs on it. It was flattering but he got real possessive and said we mise well just break up right now cuz this is messed up. Since I’ve blocked him on every form of media possible and he can’t contact my friends and family, he called my place of employment. I will smile again one day. Oh I might feel a difference for a while; but it would never truly be different. I know I am supposed to separate it, but I just don’t know how to do it. i met a hacker who helped save me from the shackles of lies and deceit. Saved by the bell!!!!!! Thanks for the reminder and the warning. The gall of this person after all the torture and abuse that they have put me through for twelve years and now refusing to at least give closure. I was married to a Narcissist for 12 years and finally made the break and started divorce proceedings early last year. I’ve reconnected with many of my friends he bad-mouthed in the past (and I stayed under the radar with them as I just couldn’t handle the drama). I then told her to leave me alone. Ive been with an addict and narc for two years. This was word for word what happened for 4 years with my ex narc. He would say that he never run me down, shouted at me or swore at me but it was abuse because he tried to isolate me and make me doubt my own mind while playing Mr Perfect and showering me with expensive gifts, weekends and holidays as well as making my life easier by me ‘not having to work so much.’ One day I just though, ‘Is this what I think of myself, that I can let someone do this to me?’ And I decided to change I realised that my husband was probably a narcissist too and I just spend most of the marriage making excuses and after the break up trying to get along with him despite verbal and emotional abuse. The best way to see a narcissist’s true face is to reach the point in which you realize that he is able to completely and mercilessly destroy you. Finally filed for divorce after he got physical and got arrested…For which he still lacks remorse and putting the blame on me for every things. He munipulates everything and is a major control freak. Saying I’m at a business meeting. How Narcissists Keep Their Mates From Leaving or Cheating, Psychology Today © 2020 Sussex Publishers, LLC. I have been trying really hard with no contact and he has been sending me emails pretty much once a week under pretence of his post… The last email was 3 weeks ago accusing me of burning his post. The thing too, is that FB is so juvenile when it comes to advertising your relationships. Subscribe to our mailing list and receive our weekly posts right to your inbox. It was only after being hospitalized with anxiety did I start seeing a councilor only to discover that I was married to a Narcissist. I thought at first he was just settling in, but it kept getting worse. I feel like I’m under a dark cloud and can’t get out. You really need to think that through and only you can give yourself the answer. I have tried legal means- and have been told” who would put a restraining order against their mother?” Not sure what to do anymore… I no longer have the money to even move. He cheated on me once and the second time I still think he did but he’s to this day denied this…. This healing is sort of like rehab, you get addicted to the highs and you just want to feel it one more time but I’m telling you the low will always be following and that’s no way to live. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told him to never contact me again- it never works. Well, that lasted 2 months. My prayers are with all of you, that you remember that you are meant to be free and happy! Then the S@#%show began..After confronting her about her making out with a guy standing next to me at a party GOD forbid I should have been offended and hurt let alone mention how I felt…I was called every name in the book, the push pull love hate, disappearing acts MIA..the verbal abuse, the personal attacks you know the drill…My 9 year old son had past away 6 months before this encounter and I was enmeshed in my grief (As I stil am and probably will be for the rest of my life…after 4 months of this POS in my life I said screw this and walked away not to ever look back..NO CONTACT ever again..I can now laugh at that situation (ot took several month to gain my self worth and self esteem back) I know who I am again and I AM THAT AMAZING person that even they saw in the beginning..I trust myself and my decisions again and continue feel my strengths more than I have ever in my life…I was devastated in the beginning as I saw my entire future with this person..I finally looked at the grief of my dream and not grieving of her and thats what started my healing…I asked my therapist Why can’t I figure this out or understand this WHOLE THING…it was maddening…she stated ” You will never FIGURE her out nor do you want to..if you could you would EXACTLY like her….MOVE on and set yourself FREEEEEE…. If you are in such position too, just contact him at rethack7 at gmail DOT com. He’s laughed at me and humiliated me. My N confronted me and it ended in a physical confrontation which I came out the victor. Remember they NEVER change !!! I am now in no contact ( yes, we have all been there and fell for those irresistible hoovers) but this time after having studied narcissism ad nauseum – have made this the last one. I informed my co-workers that I am not available to see him or take his calls. It’s true. I blocked him on all social media’s and from my phone. As soon as his old behaviours started coming out (namely, him trying to manage down my expectations – not going to happen), that was it, I was out of there. You’ve wanted to hear and feel that this man really loves you throughout your entire relationship and here it is. He would always break up with me right after having a great romantic week or day and the next morning he’d say it’s over. then throw you out like yesterday’s garbage and then go after a new victim. Their toxicity permeates every relationship in their lives – no one is immune, including, unfortunately, children. But, if he made you miserable and being in love with him really hurt, then you know that the relationship never was and never will be a positive, healthy one. This is the exact way he talks. And what do you know the next night I met to talk with him. You are the one who will end up suffering and never get what you truly deserve – … I know it was all BS. Oh, I’m a very long way away from being “on top of things”, but I am glad that I find ways to help me out of that nasty gutter. I’m being pushed to be real nasty and mean about it but I’m doing everything I can to have it end peacefully as possible. I’m staying prayed up, faithful and my eyes on God because I personally believe that these types of people are spiritually possesed. That’s not a diagnosis, but getting an NP to see he IS and NP is tantamount to admitting there is a problem with him, which ain’t gonna happen. Everything with me to him was a challenge.. Also, what about factors like ADD/ADHD or things like TBI or PTSD? Image courtesy of KEKO64 at freedigitalphotos.net. Much love! He was a serial cheater and i found out he was using me. It is just so textbook. Never experienced anything so exciting and mind-fucking in my life. I’m not coming back.”. Again nothing to do with me . I have been in a relationship with a narc for 6 months. But if this is the first time you’ve mentioned it and he goes ballistic, this is indicative of a guy who is truly guilty. He took me for a half million dollars, moved me out to the country, isolating me from my friends & family, mistreated my adult children & now slips in & out of my life as he sees fit. You can ask that they read a self-help book with you. I’ve blocked on Skype, Gmail = trash bucket, block on FB, and maybe something else? You will heal and feel whole again, I promise you that. I was thinking of narc friends and boyfriends who would say things like “Oh, you can do that another time” or the guilt inducing “Well, you would come with me if you really wanted to” when I told them that I need to go and do something instead of being with them, or “Oh, they’ll understand if you don’t go” when I’ve previously arranged to see someone else or I had an appointment. Thats my story and many more just like that. Nothing. Ortensia – if your Narcissist has gone and left you alone consider yourself lucky. Unfortunately he also told me that he has a job about 10 minutes from where I work. The possessiveness ‘because he loved me so much’ and the isolation were simply too much. When his bad mood would arise he would talk and text me putting me down so much .. I have experienced everything in this article too. I should have walked away when I saw this. I’ve lost my job amd had to move back home last year when he digarded me like a piece of crap. He told me he wanted me to come see him…. If you’ve caught him hiding a massive secret or two (like he-lost-his-job-and-didn’t-tell-you-for-months huge), it’s certainly feasible that he’s capable of hiding a side chick. When he pulls the lever and never gets rewarded, he will learn quickly that pulling the lever gets him nowhere, so he’ll just stop. You have to remember they are NOT capable of LOVING anyone. I wish you all the best. Heart of Stone, you did the right thing! Add properties and financials and it get to be a real mess. Keep working on your own health and strength and look elsewhere. … Our friends have been my sober crew for the last year and half. They prey on the weak and they will destroy you if you let them. If it was a smaller amount, I’d let it go. He said go to sleep, your being dramatic. While trying repeatedly to live off me. Trying to get back on track. I eventually had dinner with him and it was like we had never stopped talking. I am divorcing my N after 18 years, we have 2 kids. impossible by anyone on earth. Alex we are over. And lastly when he carried on about nothing, I tryed diffusing him, saying ok honey I agree with you, and just calm him down hoping when he cooled down I could reason with him then. Yes you did the right thing and let them think what they like. Conversation? At some point I stopped blocking because, eventually, I don’t F***ING care. Is that the only way? I’ve been told everything under the sun by my ex N. I know it’s hard. How “things” went down was messed up (No he never took accountability for cheating or hurting me) but we were the ones in the wrong. I WILL smile again one day…, I had an amazing relationship with my bf of 4 yrs. thank u all for sharing::::; they also are hoping you aren’t doing great once they’ve left your life. Please pray for me and I am praying for you. So before you mention anything to your guy, make sure these 10 clear signs your boyfriend is cheating are really happening or if your imagination is playing games with you. Also I read that one should NOT read or listen to what any narcissist says, but watch what he/she does and THAT HELPS cuz that brings out more truth about her more than I could ever realize or imagine. I will spare you the details, including the 25+ women he cheated on me with, a serial narcopath. I got yelled at for this guy complimenting me and him and he did it with his parents right there. I searched out this subject and came across this in my google search. Before you confront him, don't make these three mistakes that women make all-too-often when they suspect their man is cheating. I don’t want him to be out of my life and I want to have him see what fun I am having. I stupidly agreed. I stuck it out for years, hoping that sweet funny guy was still in there somewhere, but that part of him must have died a long time ago. I had blocked my ExN’s phone # but not email. Block them from everything an anything!!! Dont waste another 1 sec giving headspace to trash . With love Mel xx. It only took my N 4 weeks to drop the mask, but it still hurt like hell! Many of us go into no contact feeling strong and determined to be done with all the madness and then out of nowhere a text message comes in. This psycho gave me crazy anxiety and depression and made me question my own sanity. Silverman points out that a change in sleep habits could mean more than insomnia and that a cheating spouse may appear more exhausted and restless. I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship with a narc, for much too long. it became more worst than before. He kept making promises that he or his family would pay me back – he moved in with me right away , pretending he was only going to stay a few days. If you don’t mean it, he will not believe you. Why Watching Holiday Gatherers Fall Ill Might Feel Good, you need to be out of that toxic relationship, Predicting Infidelity from Precise Personality Sub-Traits, Socializing Tips to Improve Your Online Connections, Surviving Infidelity: When “Crazy” Is the New “Normal”, The Complicated Reasons Why Some People Cheat. I wish I had known about “no contact” it seems like the saving grace. Then I find out the entire time hes calling me a whore , acting like Im being a mean bitch because he is so negative and never can hold a job , and I beg him to work , get mad that I have to cash in more savings. He took it as we,are back together. 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